How do I modify the query used to eager load associations

Hi, I have a classic hierarchical entity with single level of nesting

class Job < ApplicationRecord
  has_many :children, class_name: 'Job', foreign_key: 'parent_id'
  belongs_to :parent, optional: true, class_name: 'Job'
end

When retrieving the jobs and their children from db, they can be sorted by different columns + an user defined order. The children should also be sorted within their parents.
How do I make rails eager load the children with the sorting applied?

The closest thing I found are scoped associations and specifying them in includes - the problem is that I'd need to create an association per each valid column, which could be possible with metaprogramming, but kinda ugly; it's a shame that it's not possible to pass params to a scoped association.
I'm also ready to just preload the data manually to just go forward